There are privileged white people, there are whites who struggle. There are MANY privileged Asian people. The wealthiest, most spoiled and privileged person I know is black. Can you imagine people just casually throwing around some phrase that insulted everyone with black skin? Blacks and the left would be outraged. Such childish b.s.
"I'm the most racist person ..and I'm the mayor of Toronto" - I'm paraphrasing from memory, and I think that was in Hizzoner's Steak Queen rant. For me this may be RoFo's Legacy. I've lived in this city for over 6 decades and I can remember when the n-word was a common epithet. And I can remember how that word started fading from common usage in the city, though I don't know about in Etobicoke. I encountered it at a workplace in Scarbo in the 1990s and I was the only one who was shocked. It was a black woman who approached me to say , basically, "ignore the idiots". It was the black community members who were willing to let it go. If some of them, or all of them, or even none of them are no longer willing to let it go it doesn't absolve members of the white community who are offended by it from a duty to call out members of our own community on racism, first and foremost our "leaders",.
My parents were ethnically German Jugoslavs who arrived here as DPs after WWII, and some of my relatives never gave up their fondness for Uncle Adolf. I never heard any of them say "ignore the idiots" .
I'm also the mother of a bi-racial son, and he's now a resident of a city that is 50% non-white. I don't have a lot of white female privilege, but if someone wants to call me out on it I'm willing to engage with them.
An adult conversation is what we desperately need, and if that makes some of us uncomfortable, so be it. But I think we need to be willing to call it out when we see it or I fear for all of us.