ADRM
Senior Member
I want to exercise the greatest of caution in making assertions about events and people with which I was not involved; and none of whom I know personally.
With the greatest of respect
@ADRM I am concerned you are not adhering to that standard in this instance.
The point I'm trying to convey is that it's important -- for a whole bunch of reasons -- to extend a greater degree of consideration to women who allege that they have been assaulted. This is a pretty key aspect of the broader conversation about assault that is very quickly (and in many, many cases, confusingly) unfolding.
We've got people on here saying the victims should be embarrassed for coming forward. We've got people on here belittling the women for coming forward. We've got people on here holding up today's stories as evidence that the claims are bullshit, and that's just a bridge way too far.
This conversation is difficult and nuanced and confusing and frustrating and many more things, but jumping to conclusions in that way is inherently problematic. To use your phrasing, I do think we need to exercise a much greater caution in making those types of assertions for the very reason that none of us were in any of those rooms; it cuts both ways. And I think that's an extremely dangerous standard to fall back onto for the chilling effect it has on future victims.