I was moreso focused on the fact people on here admit sex is a large part of the gay community.
Gay men do not share any common heritage, faith, ethnic background, physique, language, or anything like that. The *only* thing which brings us together is sexual orientation. So of course sex is the most universal theme in the gay community. It's the only thing we have in common.
Well, that and Madonna-worship, but even that isn't universal.
I knew I would get responses like this and what I said would be spun around to make me seem ashamed. But I'm not.
Nowhere did I say that you should feel ashamed, but you seem to imply that others should.
I just don't think people should be proud that when the idea of a gay person comes to mind anonymous sex does as well. When I read this forum I see people discussing how the village is great for hook-ups. Lately, on other boards as well I see gay people stating that being homosexual is not about being monogomous and is moreso focused on open relationships.
Indeed it shouldn't be the idea of a gay person, since there are plenty of straight people who act this way as well. They just tend not to be as open about it. They don't need to go to a few blocks of the city to try and pick someone up. They have the entire world instead.
That discourages me and that attutidue is very anti-progressive to gay people who want to get married or adopt children.
Why should it be anti-progressive? Are there no promiscuous straight people who aren't married or don't have children?
But I think this is just the older generation that is more like this, than my generation. The gay people I know are not like this, and hopefully never will be.
Here's the thing: that in-your-face sexuality is what got us our rights in the first place, and allows you the luxury to whine about being gay and misunderstood. If you look back at history, you'll find that the people who wanted to abide by the rules and be all nice and decent got nowhere with the struggle. It wasn't until the drag queens and real freaks who had nothing to loose started demanding their rights that anything began to change. Their fight is what got us to the point where we can have this conversation and not worry about being fired/disowned by family/jailed for being queer.
FWIW, I'm not a drag queen, nor am I particularly promiscuous. But to blame open displays of sexuality for so many of the community's problems is misguided. The "let's all behave nice, keep quiet, and not upset anyone" mentality is a huge step backward, not forward.