guvner
New Member
I'm just looking for some advice here. My wife and are both in our mid/late 20's living in Kingston, we have had plans to sell our house and move to TO for my wife to broaden her career options as a human resources professional and for me to go back to school to become a nurse.
The main issue for going to Toronto is that my wife has many more job opportunities in Toronto (3yrs exp. human resources field), just looking on Workopolis you can see there are lots of jobs available where as smaller Kingston has limited advancement opportunities, infact Workopolis has no job listings. She has a great job where she is now, but wants that option to be able to move onto something bigger and better should something come up and thats where Toronto has the options. Also she is somewhat bored with Kingston which I can understand, its a smaller city and not a lot to do sometimes, but then again any city you live in for awhile can get boring after awhile. For me I plan to quit my job and go back to school so that I can find a more enjoyable career, school wise there are more options in Toronto, but I could careless where I go as long as I can go to school. As for Toronto I am honestly not too fond of moving there, sure I will go if thats best for us, but for me I grew up in a small town outside Montreal so I'm ok with venturing into the big city for trips here and there or to visits friends, but living there is not my cup if tea, in fact I've only been on a city bus once and the subway a half dozen times. Its just so big, fast paced, there are sooooo many people and realistically I'm not sure if I could handle 4 yrs of school there, but I am open minded at the same time.
My dilemma comes from the fact that my wife is dead set of moving there when the time is right, but I don't think we can afford it and I'm doubtfull that I'm going to be happy there in the long run. We will need to live off $45,000 income with a decent 2 bed apartment preferably a house and we have 2 big dogs one being a pitbull mix which worries me too. On paper if we find something say $900/mth and close to the Yonge line where car insurance is cheapest (i'm an insurance broker now) we will be $300 in hole each month so that means I need a part time job while going to school full time. Now in Kingston we could sell our house and downgrade to a small townhouse condo which we used to own and live more comfortably, infact we could rent out a room or the basement and have money in the bank, plus we would slowly build up some equity which we will not when renting in Toronto.
The whole idea with me going to school to pursue my career ambitions is that my wife could persue her career ambitions in Toronto, its suppose to be a win win comprimse for both of us, but she knows I don't want to move since I really like Kingston. Most of our friends and family are here so when I say I don't think we can afford to move to TO she gets upset and it ends up coming across that I'm getting what I want and she just has to follow along, she clearly feels like she is going to be stuck in her job for 4 more years while I get to do what I want and she has to support both of us. I certainly want her to get what she wants, but I really think financially its going to be a big mistake and we have made enough financial mistakes in the past that I'm trying to take the safest and more comfortable route.
I'm feeling like I'm rambling here....any opinions/advice?
The main issue for going to Toronto is that my wife has many more job opportunities in Toronto (3yrs exp. human resources field), just looking on Workopolis you can see there are lots of jobs available where as smaller Kingston has limited advancement opportunities, infact Workopolis has no job listings. She has a great job where she is now, but wants that option to be able to move onto something bigger and better should something come up and thats where Toronto has the options. Also she is somewhat bored with Kingston which I can understand, its a smaller city and not a lot to do sometimes, but then again any city you live in for awhile can get boring after awhile. For me I plan to quit my job and go back to school so that I can find a more enjoyable career, school wise there are more options in Toronto, but I could careless where I go as long as I can go to school. As for Toronto I am honestly not too fond of moving there, sure I will go if thats best for us, but for me I grew up in a small town outside Montreal so I'm ok with venturing into the big city for trips here and there or to visits friends, but living there is not my cup if tea, in fact I've only been on a city bus once and the subway a half dozen times. Its just so big, fast paced, there are sooooo many people and realistically I'm not sure if I could handle 4 yrs of school there, but I am open minded at the same time.
My dilemma comes from the fact that my wife is dead set of moving there when the time is right, but I don't think we can afford it and I'm doubtfull that I'm going to be happy there in the long run. We will need to live off $45,000 income with a decent 2 bed apartment preferably a house and we have 2 big dogs one being a pitbull mix which worries me too. On paper if we find something say $900/mth and close to the Yonge line where car insurance is cheapest (i'm an insurance broker now) we will be $300 in hole each month so that means I need a part time job while going to school full time. Now in Kingston we could sell our house and downgrade to a small townhouse condo which we used to own and live more comfortably, infact we could rent out a room or the basement and have money in the bank, plus we would slowly build up some equity which we will not when renting in Toronto.
The whole idea with me going to school to pursue my career ambitions is that my wife could persue her career ambitions in Toronto, its suppose to be a win win comprimse for both of us, but she knows I don't want to move since I really like Kingston. Most of our friends and family are here so when I say I don't think we can afford to move to TO she gets upset and it ends up coming across that I'm getting what I want and she just has to follow along, she clearly feels like she is going to be stuck in her job for 4 more years while I get to do what I want and she has to support both of us. I certainly want her to get what she wants, but I really think financially its going to be a big mistake and we have made enough financial mistakes in the past that I'm trying to take the safest and more comfortable route.
I'm feeling like I'm rambling here....any opinions/advice?