the lemur
Senior Member
Let's go back further to the original criticism - ie. Rob used the "k" word and that there wasn't any condemnation of such from DoFo. I found the response from DoFo and his supposedly Jewish spouse rather odd in this context. Assuming that a) she really is Jewish and b) her family has a long standing fear over being identified as such over fears of discrimination - your brother basically just insulted your wife's background, one that she has fears over due to prosecutions and all you did was demur and roll over, as if it was some everyday joke? It sounds awfully questionable to me. That's not to mention that his firm has actually lost a senior exec over this very same issue.
The senior exec was a guy who quit Deco because of the toxic atmosphere, right?
The thing about Doug not speaking up against Rob's use of the k-word (and other epithets accounting for about 1/3 of the alphabet, it seems) is that it didn't really bother him. He didn't see anything wrong with referring to Renata on the radio as a 'polack' either, because 'I didn't know it was offensive' basically means to him that it wasn't offensive until someone else took offence.
Rob and Doug have a screwed-up groupthink idea that they're not racist just because they have a diverse bunch of friends, and whatever names they throw around aren't racist or offensive provided they're distributed evenly and as long as everyone does it (no matter how uncomfortable anyone might be individually or privately).
These are guys whose idea of respect and equality comes down to 'be as much of an asshole to one person as you are to any other'.