He's been going on about "white privilege" a lot lately. If I recall correctly you support this whole idea too--that we're born with some big advantage because of our skin colour. I find it an ugly and offensive topic. I know plenty of white people who've had anything but privileged lives. People who've grown up in poverty and been in and out of jail. Girls who were sexually abused as kids and got knocked up in middle school. People who lost their jobs a few years ago and haven't been able to find another one. My dad's father died when he was a kid and he grew up poor and had to make his own way. I've been stuck in the same dead end, low paying job for years despite applying for hundreds of jobs. We're up to our ears in debt and one job loss away from being totally screwed. And yet I'm privileged because of my skin colour?
Jimmi T, I think we differ in our views because we're working from different definitions of white privilege. I've read yours, so I hope you'll read mine:
White privilege is just a way to describe the opposite experience of racism. That's it. It's a way to describe the experience white people get to have by not being judged for the crime of darker skin. It's the flipside of racism. That's all.
So, white privilege does not mean automatically being successful at everything. It also doesn't mean white people never experience abuse, hardship, poverty, alcoholism, or avoid debt, mental illness or job layoffs. Nor does it mean white never get stopped illegally by police, go to jail, or even accused of crimes they didn’t commit.
Problem is, white people rarely get to see how they don't experience racism. For example, if you're white, you'll probably never know that the cop who stopped you for running a red light and let you off with a stern warning is the same cop who stopped, held for three hours, and illegally searched the car of a black man for having tinted windows.
I'm confident we both agree that racism exists, and that the second encounter described above would fall in that category. White privilege is just a way of describing the first one - getting let off, or even ticketed - but not harrassed and illegally searched. But it doesn't mean you'll never get harrassed and illegally searched! It means it's less likely to happen to you than a person of colour, and I think this is what makes it hard for white people to understand: it's about likelihoods rather than absolutes.
Anyways, I don't know if I've done anything to persuade you, but I do hope you'll also read this piece by Desmond Cole about his experience of racism here in Toronto and then consider how it may compare to your own experiences with police:
http://www.torontolife.com/informer...im-ive-interrogated-police-50-times-im-black/