ThoughtArcade
Active Member
Thanks for this, a lot of great points. I wasn't even thinking as far as his family and his ultimate priorities. Just that in his professional life, Ford has almost entirely coasted on lies, evasions and refusal to take responsibility for his actions. I wouldn't think you could continue to work that way as a legit recovering addict. If Rob Ford can't cheat his way through his political career, it collapses pretty fast.
Generally my own tactic has been to strip away everything that gave a sense of false identity. Job. Hobbies. Everything. Those will be important (and necessary) one day, but to confront behaviours, it has to be done with the view that none of that stuff matters. Only you, and what you do. That's the way you come face to face with who you really are. You took a piece of bread when you weren't supposed to? Oh, then you're the kind of person who will break rules and feels they are entitled to more than others, etc, etc...
By the same token, that's how *true* self esteem is built. You sacrificed your free time to talk to someone who was having a rough time? Then that's the kind of person you are. Can you do it consistently? Then you're the type of person who, absent of drugs, can be relied upon.
The other thing I would hammer into him on a daily basis is this:
The emptiness you are feeling and trying to fill is the gap between who you really are and the mask you where for everyone else.